Around the clock service. It’s a common convenience, especially in today’s hurried world. But what about when it comes to your BDSM and fetish needs? For some kink practitioners, moving their D/s relationship into a 24 hour a day, 7 day a week , ’round the clock role without breaks or ‘scenes’ is a major step that can be both exciting and intimidating. Like moving in together, marriage, or any other big step in a couple’s life, it’s not right for everyone or every relationship, and is never a move to be made lightly. So how do you know if you and your Master are ready to take things full time? And how do you keep from losing yourself in the process?
Like any relationship, there are no hard and fast rules when it comes to a full-time, 24/7 master and slave set up. But when it comes to a set up of this particular nature, ground rules and guidelines are essential, and need to be set up well in advance, so that both people know what they are committing to long before anyone signs on the dotted line. Keeping in mind that full time servitude doesn’t allow for scenes to end or break means that particular attention should be paid especially to the submissive’s mental and emotional well being–subdrop can be taxing and harrowing if not handled well, and entering this kind of relationship with someone who doesn’t know what they’re doing can lead to disastrous results.
Additionally, it’s important to note that while the submissive is essentially entering a life of servitude to their master, it’s incredibly important that they there be consent and strong desire on their part, as well as an effort to constantly better and strengthen themselves as an individual. As a slave, you are a reflection of your Sir or Mistress–and as such, you should always strive to be the best version of yourself as possible, for both of you.
Expanding on the subject of consent–even within the world of a master and slave relationship that exists behind closed doors all day every day, it’s all too often assumed that just because consent was given once, it counts as a blanket form that covers everything that the Dom wants to do to the sub forever and always from then on out. This simply isn’t true. Rules, boundaries, and hard limits are always free to be renegotiated, and safe words are there to be used.
Realistically speaking, even in 24/7 relationships, the submissive won’t be in servitude all the time, and parameters should also be set for what is expected of them during times when the couple is simply being a couple. There is a reason BDSM is referred to as a lifestyle. For most, it isn’t something that stops at the door, with collars and whips and props. It is an integral part of who they are and what they need–be it bondage or pain or simply a guiding hand. Entering into this type of covenant should be done with the same tone of respect and care–and only after the same amount of consideration and careful planning–as a vanilla marriage agreement.